Archive for the ‘Adoption’ Category

Update on Writing

January 31, 2014

In 2013, my writing revived. An article, called “The Rock Hunt”, was published in the Inspire Faith anthology! It is a short account of my spiritual adoption in Christ. It is available through Amazon and the Sacramento Inspire Faith Christian Writers (,

By the end of summer, I finished the rough copy of my book about my physical adoption, discovered at the age of 38, and the reunion with my birth family twenty years later. Each chapter is going through a thorough sifting by a critique group. At this rate, three chapters a month, I will have a polished manuscript by summer of 2014.

The key to completing my book finally came to me   last year, thank God. I had struggled for a long time and never completed my book. I saw myself writing it like slapping raw clay on a board. The clay had no shape. Later when all the clay was on the board, I would re-craft it, reshape and mold it. I am doing that now.

At the same time, I will submit short articles to different publishers and elicit the help of more seasoned writers as I proceed down this precarious road. I am excited to share the wonderful stories and adventures I have had in my life. It is a exhilarating time as I embark on a new phase of my writing career. I thank God for clear direction and a host of writers to accompany me on this journey.


Are You Touched by Adoption?

April 5, 2010

Welcome! Please share who you are and if adoption has touched you in any way. Are you a member of the classic Adoption Triad (adoptee, birth parent, or adopted parent)? Or the Adoption Constellation (spouse, sibling or other relative of a triad person)? Or just interested in the subject of adoption for other reasons? Thanks.

Which Is More Important?

April 2, 2010

I am their child; each one can claim me as that. They gave me their inheritance – physical, soul, and/or spirit. It’s up to me what I do with each of their gifts, positive or negative.
My bio-parents gave me the substance for life, the raw genetic material , that basic ball of clay. My environ-parents contributed to the structures for this clay. Which is more important, the clay or the forms it is cast into? How can one make that judgment! Both are essential for the finished product as are my choices in how to react to their contributions.

More on “I am the Fruit of Two Trees”

April 1, 2010

I am the fruit of two trees, each one giving me life and sustenance, and each one forming me. How can two trees produce one fruit? How can I have an identity formed by two trees?
The first gave me my biological aspects. I get my shape and color, my physical nature, and some of my traits and talents from it. The second provided for nurture for my growth – the water, the sun, the air, my basic care and maturing, came through it, and added to my traits and talents.
Nature and nurture, natural with adopted, how do I separate myself into two compartments – my biological and environmental selves? The two are so intertwined they become one, a new fruit – me!
All these complex forces find their repository in my personhood. I am the sum of aspects of all four parents, two of them forming each tree. I am the product of deep biological drives, coupled with strong environmental energies, selectively and synergistically combining to become the individual I am.

I am the Fruit of Two Trees

March 31, 2010

I am the fruit of two trees, the fusion of a union of strands, good and bad, forming one unique and unduplicated combination of two very different trees, united through me. Who will recognize this union? The choice is acceptance or denial for the fruit, me, the adoptee, or the trees, my biological and adopted parents and their families.

Hello Everyone!

March 31, 2010

My. First. Post.